Montessori Curriculum Scope and Sequence

Montessori Curriculum Scope and Sequence

This is a very useful document developed by the Montessori Foundation and included for IMC member reference. An even more robust version of this scope and sequence has been aligned to the Common Core State Standards and is exclusively available as part of Montessori Compass, an excellent Montessori student record keeping solution (www.montessoricompass.com)

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Finding Motivation the Montessori Way

Finding Motivation the Montessori Way

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Daniel Pink in his bestseller, Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us makes the point that motivation is an individual and internal process. Notice the little ‘I” in the book’s title. The little “I” signifies intrinsic motivation.

External rewards and punishments rarely motivate our behavior for the long term. Money, good grades, stickers, and prizes get us to change our behavior for a while. Punitive measures, in the long run, create fear, rebellion, and worse.

External rewards sometimes coincide with our internal motivation and create a perceived cause and effect that is perhaps not valid.

Edward Deci and Richard Ryan, psychologists at the University of Rochester, describe deep human needs in their work with “self-determination theory,” an overarching construct of human motivation and personality that focuses on how an individual’s behavior is self-motivated and self-determined.

Deci and Ryan describe three deep human needs: the need to be able to direct our own lives; the need to grow, learn, and create new ideas, experiences, and objects; and the need to have a sense of purpose to make our lives and the lives of those around us better.

These three psychological needs motivate each of us to initiate a task and seek out essential activities that create our psychological health and physical well-being. Deci and Ryan refer to these as the need for competence, the need for autonomy, and the need for relatedness. Pink uses the terms mastery, autonomy, and purpose. This article will use the terms autonomy, mastery, and purpose. These three words also form an easy-to-remember acronym: AMP.

Fundamental Needs.

The needs for autonomy, mastery, and purpose are considered to be fundamental needs in self-determination theory. In our Montessori teacher training, discussions on fundamental needs and human tendencies comprise part of our philosophy lectures and readings. The underlying idea is that human beings have behaviors that stem from innate needs and tendencies, much like a bird has the instincts to build a nest, a spider will spin a web, and cows will stampede when frightened.

According to Montessori philosophy, human beings have two types of fundamental needs—physical and spiritual. Psychological or social might be substituted here for the term spiritual.

Physical needs include the following: air, food, light, movement, protection from danger, sleep, sexual expression, shelter, touch and water. Spiritual or psychological needs include the following: acceptance, appreciation, becoming, be- longing, celebration, closeness, community, consideration, contribution, emotional safety, empathy, honesty, love, re- assurance, respect, support, trust, understanding, warmth, movement, exercise, creativity, exploration, orientation, inspiration, laughter, fun, contemplation, silence, ability to choose dreams, goals and values, ability to create self worth, ability to create meaning, ability to create an authentic person, and ability to create personal integrity, beauty, harmony, peace, repetition, precision and exactness.

Human beings have certain tendencies toward behavior. These include tendencies toward activity, becoming, be- longing, exploration, orientation, order, communication, imagination, exactness repetition and perfection. As you can see, human tendencies and fundamental needs have some overlap. Each of these fundamental needs and human tendencies relate to one or more of the needs of autonomy, mastery and purpose.

The idea of human behavior being driven by needs in not a new one in the

Montessori world of learning and teaching. It is one of the basic ideas Montessorians use to view and understand child development and behavior.

This knowledge of human tendencies and fundamental needs form some of the building blocks of Montessori prepared environments, special places designed to help children meet their needs and tendencies at whatever their stage of personal development.

Dr. Montessori saw that child development changed in approximately six- year phases or, as she referred to them, planes of development. Each plane of development has unique characteristics with the individual trying to meet the needs and tendencies of that period of development.

The first plane begins at birth though approximately the age of six years; second plane of development is from age six to twelve years; the third plane is from ages 12 to 18 years; and the fourth plane is from 18 to 24 years. Each plane is divided into two three-year sub-stages. Growth is more rapid in the first substage. In the second sub-stage growth is slower and more stable. Each sub-stage for the first three planes of development has a special prepared  environment  for a three-year multi-age group of children.

In the first plane of development, from birth through six years, movement, language, the refinement of sensory perceptions, social relations and order are the lens through which a child’s development can be understood.

As the first tooth is lost, the child begins to move into the second plane of development and we can observe the changes in the child’s needs and tendencies toward certain behaviors. The freely chosen activities of the six to twelve-year-old are centered on moral reasoning, use of the imagination, group dynamics, getting out of the narrow circle of family and close friends, and using a developing sense of right and wrong.

The third plane of development is characterized by rapid physical growth, sexual maturation and boundless energy; developing abilities to abstract, conjecture, predict and create; a need to be with peers and accepted; a need to be individually mentored by an adults who are not their parents; a need to understand What am I good at? and What am I good for?; strong and often harsh self- criticism; a need for meaningful work that contributes to adult communities; a need to express new interests, thought, and emotions; the need to acquire flexible and inquiring habits of the mind; and the need to develop a personal vision.

The young adult in the fourth plane of development has a need to go out into the world and create his or her own experiences. The young adult takes on the challenge of deciding to start college, creating new experiences through relationships and travel, and beginning career and married life. At the end of the fourth plane of development, the true adult should emerge.

With these concepts of fundamental needs, human tendencies, and the four planes of development, Montessori prepared environments—consisting of people, tools, ideas and nature—are perhaps perfect places for children to meet their innate needs for autonomy, mastery and purpose.

Autonomy: the need to direct our own lives

The four essential components necessary for autonomy to thrive, according to Deci and Ryan, are having decision- making authority about task, time, tech- nique and team. We need the ability and assurance that we can choose what to do, when to do it, how to do it, and with whom to do it.

Authentic Montessori classrooms have these basic components:

  1. Adults professionally trained in Montessori philosophy, methods and materials for the group they are teaching
  2. Specially prepared environments based on three-year age groups
  3. Children’s free choice of activity within a three-hour protected work cycle.

Activities in our Montessori classrooms have been designed and refined over a hundred years all over the world with all types of children—rich, poor, gifted, challenged—using observation of the child involved in self-selected activities while keeping the ideas of human tendencies, fundamental needs and planes of development in the forefront.

Task.

Children in Montessori classroom environments are given the freedom to choose their tasks. Once a child has  been shown how to get lesson materials off the shelf, and given a preliminary lesson on how to use and return the lesson materials to order, the child is free to choose that task. In a matter of a few weeks upon entering a Montessori classroom a three-year-old has dozens of activities to select.

Time.

Children in a Montessori environment are also given time. In the optimum situations children have a protected three- hour-work cycle in which to do their self-selected tasks. The children are allowed to do a particular task as long as they choose. When they are finished with the task, the children return the lesson materials to the designated place on the shelf, and select the next task.

This gift of choice of time and task help the children develop confidence in their choices and helps them develop concentration as well as independence—all aspects of autonomy.

Also, remaining in a classroom for a three- or four-year period contributes to this factor of time in the development of autonomy.

Technique.

Another aspect of autonomy is having the ability to choose how you do a task. Children in Montessori environments are allowed to find their own method of working with the materials. Each set of Montessori materials has a preliminary lesson, followed by other lessons as the Montessori guide (teacher) observes the child requiring new challenges while working on his or her self-selected tasks.

The child is allowed to explore the limitations of the materials as long as the material is not abused or used to harm others. For example, the Pink Tower is a set of ten cubes varying in dimension from one to ten centimeters. The preliminary lesson shows the child how to move the Pink Tower to a rug, build a tower with the largest cube on the bottom, then how to return the cubes to their place. As the child explores the limits of the Pink Tower over a three-year period in the early childhood environment, a variety of designs may be seen as the child chooses self-discovered techniques, not simply imitating a teacher’s example. Every lesson, within the limits of safety, can be freely explored to allow the child this important development of technique.

Another aspect of technique is that the children have a variety of materials to explore different ideas. In the exploration of addition the child can choose from Red Rods, Golden Bead Materials, the Snake Game, the Stamp Game, Addition Strip Board and the Small Bead Frame, to only mention a few of the math materials available to the child to promote autonomy using task, time and technique.

Team.

The last of our four T’s of autonomy is team, or the ability to choose with  whom you will work. One interesting aspect of a Montessori environment is that children are allowed to politely decline a teacher’s invitation to a lesson. “No, thank you. I’d rather choose to work on something else,” is not an uncommon phrase. As you observe Montessori environments of all ages, you’ll see a fluidity of small work groups. Five-year-old Max may do reading exercises with four-year-old Emily, then choose to work with six-year-old Jane and Tom to do some four-digit addition problems. Among the children, there is a quiet acknowledgement of acceptance or refusal to join others in self-selected tasks.

The children honor others’ rights to choose their task, time, technique and team. It is this deep respect of autonomy in our Montessori classrooms that create the happy hum of children busy working, working toward another deep human need, mastery.

Mastery: The Need to Grow, Learn, and Create

As we learn and repeat new tasks, we need, what Pink refers to as, “Goldilocks’ tasks” tasks that are not too hot or not too cold, but just right. When there is a mismatch of what we can do and the next level of desired learning, we create a source of frustration. When we are given tasks that are too difficult, we become anxious or give up in resignation. If we are asked to do something too easy, boredom ensues and behavior can range between passivi-ty to creating chaos.

As we learn new skills, we want to be in the “zone of proximal development” (ZDP) to use a term from the psychologist Lev Vygotsky. We can think of learning tasks falling into three categories: the level where we know how to do something and find the work lacks challenge; the level of skill building where we don’t have the necessary preparation to be successful, and the third or middle level, where we have the foundational skills and can move forward when we are shown how to do a new set of tasks. The ZDP is where we find our Goldilocks’ tasks of being “just right.”

When the task given combines skill and interest, an interesting phenomenon occurs. The child yearns to learn. In the words of Dr. Montessori, “The role of education is to interest the child profoundly in an external activity to which he will bring all his potential.”

In our Montessori prepared environments the child is surrounded with and introduced to various tasks that he or she may later choose. If the child meets an obstacle or requires fresh challenge, the watchful Montessori teacher is there to give a lesson that is “just right” for the individual’s child’s zone of proximal development.

The prepared environment of children and adults, lesson materials, underlying principles, and the outdoors, calls the child interests, while providing the appropriate tasks, time, techniques and team that lead the child to mastery.

A Montessori teaching technique that keeps children walking the tightrope be- tween repetition and excitement is called “indirect preparation.” For example, we know that reading and writing will be two essential skills students will want to master. Many of the tasks offered to the young child three-to six–years old prepare the children indirectly and incrementally for the tasks of writing and reading. (Note: In Montessori teaching we regard writing as indirect preparation for reading. But that is for another article for another day.)

A two-and-a-half to three-year-old enters the classroom and learns to wash a table using a counterclockwise circular motion, starting with the first stroke at the upper left hand corner of the table. The child scrubs across the table to the right until he or she reaches the right hand edge. The child then begins again on the left under the first row of scrub- bing, and continues thus until the entire top of the table is scrubbed. The three=year-old is happy making soap bubbles in a self-selected activity that nourishes the young child’s natural tendencies to learn practical living skills. The child has no idea that this task is indirectly ready- ing his hands and eyes for the job of writing.

Writing and spelling emerge as self- selected tasks around the age of four- and-a-half years. With the indirect prepa- ration of washing a table and other practical life jobs, as well as the indirect preparation of using the Sandpaper Letters, the child desiring to write finds that he is in the Goldilocks chair.

The practical life tasks of the young child appear non-academic but serve as powerful preparation for the hand and eye to work together to ensure writing and reading success. The young child is offered many practical life skills that create coordination for later cognitive development and academic learning.

Three Laws of Mastery.

Pink refers to the three laws of mastery. Mastery is a mindset. Mastery is a pain. Mastery is an asymptote. Mastery is a mindset. The idea of mastery becomes an attitude or expectation. “Good, better, best. Never let it rest. Until your good is better, and your better, best.”

When we give our students in our Montessori classrooms autonomy to choose their tasks, times, technique and team, the idea of continual improvement is in the air. Children choose their work groups for a variety of reasons, but many times it is because they know their co-workers are better than they are at a particular task, and that working with them will help them get better. In a multi-age classroom there is always someone who can do something better than you can. Plus, there is always someone to help. Mastery is part of the Montessori culture.

Mastery is a pain. Improvement requires focused effort, and that can be a pain. But when something is important, we are willing to work for it and to exert the effort to meet our objectives.

Persevering with passion is a key ingredient to obtaining mastery. Mastery is not about innate talent but the ability to have focused practice for many years— over 10,000 hours of conscious practice in trying to improve. When we live in an environment where searching out and choosing challenging tasks is a habit, passionate perseverance helps us overcome the difficulty of becoming good, better, best. As we strive for our personal best, we come upon a paradox of mastery. As hard and long as we might try, we will never reach perfection. And that is okay.

Mastery is an asymptote. An asymptote is a line that approaches a curved line but never quite touches it, all the way to infinity. Such is the paradox of mastery. We can never reach perfection, but it is that innate drive to be better that makes life fun and helps us have a sense of purpose.

Purpose: the need to have a reason to make life better

To be a help to life” is the Montessori call to action. Montessori prepared environments are designed to meet the developmental needs and human tendencies for a particular age group of chil- dren. Montessori teaching techniques promote autonomy and mastery, creating powerful learning for children in a Montessori environment. Tapping into a sense of purpose, though, brings one’s abilities to a higher level.

Beginning with young children learn- ing to wash their hands, to button their coats, and to zip their pants, these practical life skills tap into a child’s innate desires for independence and to be self-directed. Independence as an innate purpose has three-year-olds’ sweeping floors, dusting, or cutting vegetables with a skill and care you might observe in children many years older.

The activities of making and serving snack for themselves and others feed into the children’s sense of purpose. Practical life activities that involve caring for yourself, caring for others, and caring for the indoor and outdoors create a sense of purpose not only for the three- to six-year-old groups, but also with the elementary and adolescent communities.

Whereas young children are content with the purposeful activity within the confines of their classroom community, elementary aged children’s sense of purpose begins to be concerned with the larger world and this age’s developing sense of morality and justice. The young child’s purpose is found in sweeping the classroom floor. Perhaps, the elementary child’s purpose is realized with sweeping the pavilion at the park as community work. For the adolescent purposeful work may be sweeping the floor of an ill neighbor or family member.

Purpose makes us feel important and that the work we do for our family and community is vital. The five-year-old for- gets to sweep the floor after lunch, and her friends will have to sit in crumbs. Forget to sweep the pavilion, the park looks trashy. Forget to go to the neighbors and the young teen finds that his help is vital to the smooth running of someone else’s life.

Purpose is found in our Montessori classrooms by the offering of self-selected challenging activities that passionately engage the intellectual, the physical, the emotional and the social aspects of our children.

Summary.

Support for the  deep  fundamental needs of autonomy, mastery, and purpose—the keys to intrinsic motivation, and a lifetime of well being—are found in our Montessori classrooms for all ages of children. Montessori teaching and learning techniques, that include an understanding of fundamental human needs, human tendencies and a continuum of child development, form the basis of the special Montessori prepared environments for each three year sub-stage of child development.

To be a help to life we need to observe, nourish, protect and strengthen our children by tapping into the powerful intrinsic motivation that exists from birth. It shouldn’t surprise us that our Montessori schools are uniquely posi- tioned to help our children gain autonomy, mastery and purpose for a live well lived.

REFERENCES:

Deci, E. L., & Ryan, R. M. Intrinsic Motivation and Self-Determination in Human Behavior. (Plenum Press) New York: 1985

Deci, E. L, & Ryan, R.M. Handbook of Self- Determination Research (University of Rochester Press) Rochester, NY: 2002

Pink, Daniel H. DRiVE: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us (Riverhead Books) New York: 2009

Montessori, Maria. From Childhood to Adolescence (ABC –Clio Ltd.) Oxford, England: 1948, 1994, page 11

Montessori, Mario. The Human Tendencies and Montessori Education (Association Montessori Internationale, Second Edition) Amsterdam: 1956

Schmidt, Maren. Understanding Montessori: A Guide for Parents (Dogear Publishing) Indianapolis, Indiana: 2009

Vygotsky, L. S. Mind in Society: Development of Higher Psychological Processes

(Scribner) New York, 1978

Maren Stark Schmidt, an award- winning teacher and writer, found- ed a Montessori school, and holds a Masters of Education from Loyola College in Maryland. She has over twenty-five years experience working with young children and holds teaching credentials from the Association Montessori Internationale. She currently writes a syndicated parenting column, available at www.KidsTalkNews.com and recently completed a book Understanding Montessori: A Guide For Parents. Contact her at Maren@KidsTalk News.com. Copyright 2009.

This article was originally published in the September, 2010 issue of Tomorrow’s Child with the author’s permission.

 

Toileting with Toddlers: The “hows” and “whens”

Toileting with Toddlers: The “hows” and “whens”

Toileting for Toddlers is a topic that anyone who has gone through it, is going through, or will be going through it has some basic questions and probably needs some support as they work with their children through this natural process. Anni Bryner is a toddler guide extraordinaire and she will answer many parents’ questions (spoken or unspoken) with humor and positivity!

Montessori: The Science — Part 3: Movement Matters

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From Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius

For more information, visit: http://montessori-science.org

Montessori: — The Science  Part 4: The Positive Impact of Choice

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Dr. Angeline Lillard presents Maria Montessori’s key insights about childhood education, the subsequent educational research that has validated her approach, and how these ideas are implemented in a modern Montessori classroom.

From Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius

For more information, visit: http://montessori-science.org

Montessori: The Science — Part 5: Interest Enhances Learning

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From Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius

For more information, visit: http://montessori-science.org

Montessori: The Science — Part 6: Avoid Extrinsic Rewards

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From Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius

For more information, visit: http://montessori-science.org

Montessori: The Science — Part 7: Social Education is Effective

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Dr. Angeline Lillard presents Maria Montessori’s key insights about childhood education, the subsequent educational research that has validated her approach, and how these ideas are implemented in a modern Montessori classroom.

From Montessori: The Science Behind the Genius

For more information, visit: http://montessori-science.org

Toileting with Toddlers: The “hows” and “whens”

What Did You Do at School Today?

So,your three year old is off to school for the first time and you’re very excited. You want to know what she did and who she met and what the teachers were like. So you ask. Your child either looks at you like you have two heads and says nothing or maybe responds with, “I don’t know.” Or you have an 8 year old who was always happy to share about school and friends and now suddenly stops. Or you have a budding adolescent who is reticent when asked about his day. Lorna has some hints for parents who struggle with getting answers to, “What did you do at school today?”

The Curve Of Work: First Year Primary

The Curve Of Work: First Year Primary

The first essential for the child’s development is concentration. It lays the whole basis for his character and social behavior” 

Dr. Maria Montessori (1870-1952) believed that children have an inner directive for their optimum self-construction and that concentration was the key to their natural development. This was perhaps one of her major contributions to the world: that if protected and nurtured, the child’s inner guide will lead to the development of the child’s full potential. She asked those working in her schools for close observations of the children’s behavior and it was Signorina Maccheroni in Rome that first provided specific information concerning the way in which the
children were working:

“The child keeps still for a while, and then chooses some task he finds easy, such as arranging the colors in gradation; he continues working at this for a time, but not for very long; he passes on to some more complicated task, such as that of composing words with the moveable letters, and perseveres with this for a long time (about half an hour). At this stage he ceases working, walks about the room, and appears calm; to a superficial observer, he would seem to show signs of fatigue. But after a few minutes, he undertakes some much more difficult work, and becomes so deeply absorbed in this that he shows us that he has reached the acme of his activity…When this work is finished, his activity comes to an end in all serenity; he contemplates his handiwork for a long time, then approaches the teacher, and begins to confide in her…The appearance of the child is that of a person who is rested, satisfied, and uplifted” (Montessori, 1917/1965, p. 97).

Many years of observation convinced Montessori that the work of the child and the formation of the personality occur during periods of intense concentration, which she called “polarization of attention” (Montessori, 1917/1965, p. 68). She observed that children deeply engaged and fully concentrating on a task at hand were transformed and “showed extraordinary spiritual qualities, recalling the phenomena of higher consciousness” (Montessori, 1917/1965, p. 68). A work cycle of three hours allows the child adequate time to become involved in his/her work, to observe and then become significantly engaged in an activity. “There is a vital urge to the completeness of action, and if the cycle of this urge is broken, it shows in deviations from normality and lack of purpose”
(Montessori, 1948/1967, p. 57).

The work cycle represents one of Montessori’s earliest observations about children’s development that, left uninterrupted, children would process through a regular and predictable pattern of engagement.  She was able to document this in graphs, such as the one below, which shows a child advancing towards order.

Each day the children at Montessori Casa International engage in a prolonged, uninterrupted work cycle. Through this period they engage in a variety of activities, from practical life and sensorial to culture and math. Sometimes they work alone, at other times with a group of children and sometimes with the teacher. The pace of the classroom matches the developmental needs of the children when the schedule allows for three-hours of uninterrupted time in the prepared environment.

Anita (name has been changed) is in her first year in the primary classroom. She has recently moved to Colorado with her family and speaks both Russian and English. She enters the classroom, puts her lunch away in the refrigerator, and washes her hands as is customary for the children in the school. She joins a group of children receiving a lesson on the felt board of The Very Hungry Caterpillar. Her body is calm and she listens carefully to the teacher. Ten minutes pass and she starts to scream for no apparent reason. The teacher reminds her that she is in the classroom and should use her ‘inside voice.’

At 8:11 am, she leaves the group and starts to walk around the classroom. She bothers another child who is working on his own. The teacher intervenes and asks for her help in folding napkins. Anita folds napkins for two minutes and wanders away, but the teacher finds her and brings her back to her work. After a couple of minutes, Anita leaves her work again and drifts off, watching a child do a puzzle on The Very Hungry Caterpillar. The teacher follows her and reminds Anita that her work is not complete. Anita returns to the rug and finishes folding all the napkins. She rolls up the rug and puts it away.

It is 8:19 am and Anita watches another child working on a puzzle. She does not talk to the child and neither does she try to join the work. She stands next to the table watching the child put the pieces together. At 8:25 am, when the puzzle is back on the shelf, Anita takes it out and works with it. She is calm, quiet, and focused. In between, she tells a story to herself. She is not disturbing anyone else. At 8:33 am, she puts the puzzle back on the shelf and walks around the classroom.

Anita goes into the practical life area and chooses a pouring work. She is playing with the materials when another child on the table tells her this is not funny. Anita spills the colored rice on the tray and remarks about the other child, “She’s distracting me.” She cleans up the rice, puts the tray back on the shelf and takes out another pouring work. She is inattentive, talking with friends, looking around and playing with the work.  It is 8:41 am when she cleans up and tells another child on the table, “Can I do that after you?” She works with another child and this time, she is focused. At one point, she goes up to a teacher and asks for help. Soon after she cleans up.

At 8:50 am she goes to a teacher and asks for her help with the listening station. She looks at the book as she listens to the story but is only there for three minutes. She says to another child, “It’s now your turn” and walks away. She does not go far. She takes out the bells and works quietly on her own for a couple of minutes. Soon after, she loses her focus and talks to friends close by. At 8:58 am she cleans up and walks around the classroom.

At 9 am, she is back in the practical life area working with opening and closing bottles. She talks to herself as she works but is not doing the work as the teachers have shown her. At 9:02 am, she cleans up and goes and sits next to another child who is working. She distracts the child by crawling under the table. The child tells Anita, “This is my work.” Anita asks her if she can watch and she is told “yes” but not to talk. Anita continues to distract the other child, playing with her work, laughing, and jumping up and down in her chair. She slips off her chair and says, “I’m ok” whilst laughing. She moves away from the area, goes to another part of the classroom, where she observes the growing caterpillars.

A teacher approaches her and asks if she would like to work with her. It is now 9:10 am. They return to the practical life area and Anita receives a lesson on opening and closing nuts and bolts. She watches the teacher who is giving the lesson with slow, isolated movements. Another child working on the same table, who dropped something that made a loud noise, does not distract her. When it is her turn to do the work, she begins confidently. However, the nut is stuck and she seeks the help of her teacher. Anita continues to work with the material. She is somewhat distracted but completes the work, cleans it up, and puts it away.  She goes to the silence table. Two minutes later she returns to the practical life shelf and chooses a pouring work. Her body is calm now and her movements are slow as she pours water from one container into two. One minute later, she tells the other children on the table, “I am done.” She cleans up.

At 9:24 am, she goes to the felt board and follows the book carefully as she puts the felt pieces on the board. She is sitting and working quietly. At 9:27 am, she cleans up and walks back to the practical life area. She is distracted and not working. She goes from opening and closing bottles to pouring and transferring and then to the lacing cards. It is 9:44 am and she has found something that interests her. Her body movements are slow. She is quiet and very focused. There are children talking at the table around her, but she does not look up from her work. The caterpillar lacing cards have her full attention. She works with this for ten minutes before she cleans up and puts the materials back on the shelf.

Anita goes to the sensorial shelf and takes out the mystery bags but puts them back right away. She is talking with friends and together they go into the outdoor classroom. It is 10 am. She looks through the binoculars for a couple of minutes and then chooses to take care of plants. She goes with the teacher to get water from the rain barrel and then waters the plants. She is very interested in this work, focused and quiet. There are children talking loudly around her, but she is not distracted. Every time she needs more water, she goes with the teacher to the rain barrel and then continues watering the plants. At
10:14 am she puts her work away and chooses an art project. She is somewhat distracted until she goes to the chalkboard and tries to write her name. Another child shows her how to write a few letters, and when she is able to copy them, she says, “Look, I did it!”  She moves on to writing numbers on the chalkboard.

It is 10:45 am and Anita chooses to sweep the outdoor classroom before going back inside and having a snack. At 11 am the chime rings bringing the morning work cycle to a close.

In her first year in the primary classroom, Anita is developing independence and the social responsibility that comes with living within a community. She chooses her own work and completes the cycle of activity. Concentration is beginning to develop as the teachers encourage a positive attitude towards learning. In the second year, they will continue to work on these skills, as well as promote self-confidence, initiative, autonomy, intrinsic motivation, and competence. ′

References

Montessori, M. (1917/1965). Spontaneous activity in education: The advanced Montessori method. New York: Schocken.

Acknowledgements-Shari Zeitler, Guide at
Montessori Casa International
for collecting the data for this observation.

ML/ August 2019/ Pg  34

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Montessori based Multi-Tier System of Support An overview with Christine Lowry, M.Ed

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Toileting with Toddlers: The “hows” and “whens”

Purposeful Work for Toddlers

In this session Kristi Antczak will share ways to understand and observe the underlying factors that motivate toddlers to do what they do. She will focus on the Sensitive Period for Toddlers (18 months-3 years old). This knowledge will assist parents at home in creating activities for their children or in simply recognizing the reasons for their toddlers behaviors and choices of things to do. As toddlers become more and more capable of caring for themselves and communicating with others, their confidence will build and blossom.

Book Review: A Very Large Expanse of Sea

Book Review: A Very Large Expanse of Sea

A Very Large Expanse of Sea

by Tahereh Mafi

Set in 2002, a year after the tragedy of 9/11, A Very Large Expanse of Sea is a novel with willful political significance. Author Tahereh Mafi tries very hard to bridge a gap between two people who theoretically come from different worlds. She does this through the eyes of Shirin, a  Persian girl who hates the world for the discrimination and racism she is forced to live through. Shirin’s life changes as she comes across Ocean, a mysterious boy who gravitates towards her. A Very Large Expanse of Sea is at its best when it compares and contrasts two different cultures, but downright cringe-worthy as a love story. 

Shirin, portrayed as a relatable teenage girl, is confused about the world’s unethical and racist qualities. She shows her emotion through hatred of the people around her. Shirin’s hatred feels more like a direct consequence of the environment she’s immersed in, and not a reflection of her actual personality. Through her journey, Shirin learns that not everyone is as despicable, racist, or unethical as she thinks: some people are just as lost as she. This story mainly takes place in high school, the perfect place to showcase discrimination against Muslims. 

Now we enter the book’s biggest problem: Ocean. Shirin meets Ocean in one of her classes, and they become friends. Shirin is a complicated human being; Ocean, on the other hand, is inherently one dimensional. Mafi never describes Ocean more to us than, the boy who “smells nice.” Ocean does, however, carry a family burden that I won’t spoil for you, but even with it, I feel this story fails to capture his personal essence. Shirin and Ocean have little chemistry between them. Normal two-way conversations are awkward and repetitive, due to both of these characters’ “yes” and “no” conversational skills. This relationship is, however, intriguing when they communicate like people from vastly different places in the world. For example, Ocean thought he ate Persian food regularly, but Shirin told him otherwise. It’s conversations like these that make their romance something worth paying attention to.

 A small but charming part of this novel is breakdancing. Shirin loves to breakdance with her brother, Navid, and his friends. Breakdancing is a small sport, and I’m happy it got the recognition it deserves. Shirin and Ocean are 15 and 16, which makes this book perfect for ages in the teen years. A Very Large Expanse of Sea is a short but charming novel that doesn’t deserve to sell you on its romance, but its unique main character, Shirin, and her growth as a person. How would you fair in Shirin’s position?  

 Reviewed by Liam Agnew, 10th grade, 

NewGate School, Sarasota, FL

Tomorrow’s Child/ April 2019 / Pg 30

Dear Cathie

Dear Cathie

Cute little boy is calming pretty little girl while they both are sitting on sofa at home

Dear Cathie— My children are not always nice to each other, and they sometimes admit they have been unkind to others at school or on play dates as well. I want them to learn to be kind and respectful. I have been expecting them to say “I’m sorry” when they act in this manner, such as when they hit or punch or grab something from a sibling or friend. I have been reading and hearing that there are other ways to handle these situations but those ways just feel so artificial. Can you help?        A Frustrated mom

Dear Mom,

We are all a product of our upbringing and, for many of us, saying “I’m sorry” was a get-out-of-jail-free card. The meanness or hurt was undone with two little words, but we all know that it really wasn’t. The place on the child’s arm that was punched still hurt; the sadness from the picture that was marred by scribble scrabble still remained; and the hurt feelings from the unkind words were still felt.

Montessori educators today are trying to help children of all ages view their hurtful actions through different, more compassionate eyes. We want them to look at their behavior, take ownership of it, and think of how it made the other person feel. This is how we aid in developing emotional intelligence. We want children to see how truly powerful their behavior can be and consider ways in which they can help make the situation better. It is not that children can’t make mistakes, but we want them to make logical and reasonable amends for those errors, whether they were intentional or unintentional. A child as young as two years old knows when he knocks someone over, he can help them up and check to see if they are uninjured!  If your child is running and causes another to bump his or her head on a table, he can get the ice pack from the refrigerator. This is an apology of action rather than the less meaningful apologetic statement, “I’m sorry!”
Many of the mistakes toddlers make are unintentional as they are just beginning to learn social conventions and manners. Some of their errors are impulse driven, as when they hit another or snatch a material or toy they want. At times, they even bite to show their needs when they do not yet have words or forget to use them.

As children grow into their early childhood years, they begin to understand and start the use of words and actions as power. “I can run faster than you!” “Your picture is not pretty.” “I’m not going to be your friend anymore!” Sometimes these statements are as clear and hurtful as they sound, and other times they are used to convey another unspoken message. It is our job as adults and teachers in the child’s life to help him recognize and articulate those messages as he negotiates the evolving art of socialization. “I’m not going to be your friend anymore” may really mean, “I wish I got to sit next to you at the circle.” Having your child say, “I’m sorry” will not help him grow socially. He needs to recognize and unpack his feelings, his misinterpretation of what happened, and what he said versus what he really meant to convey. Then, he needs to make a plan to somehow get his emotional needs met. “Can we play together on the playground? Do you want to play in the sandbox with me?”

Although it takes time and energy to work with children to sort through feelings, this is paramount to their being able to do it automatically and independently as they grow and mature. When there are multiple social situations happening simultaneously, as in a preschool setting or on a busy playground, this can be even more challenging. Often, you may be unable to observe all involved in a particular situation. There can be events that occurred prior to your arrival before the “straw that breaks the camel’s back” takes place. I often ask, “what happened before you hit her? What were you thinking or feeling?” Although hitting is never the right answer, it is often the third or fourth step in a series of steps. I want to see where a child’s thinking went during this time. I often ask, “What else might you have done?” It is always the responsibility of the child who caused emotional or physical harm to ask how he can make the child he hurt feel better. “What can I do to make you feel better?” I might have to suggest some ideas, such as a hug; rub his back gently; get an icepack; say you’ll never do it again; a handshake; say I’m sorry and mean it; or the child who was hurt saying that he needs space to be away from the child who caused the hurt and have time to be angry. A child who has damaged something of someone else’s needs to make reparation. He needs to set up the block structure he knocked down, if the other child would like him to, go get the ball he threw across the playground or set up the activity he destroyed or marred.

Early elementary school children sometimes ignore or exclude another. A child who intentionally hurts another in this way has a more difficult challenge to rectify the situation. It helps to bring children together so that the excluded child can articulate his hurt feelings to the child or children who intentionally ignored or excluded him. This child can then express an apology of action by making an effort to be kind to that child. As a parent and adult in his life, you can help him think of ways to do this! Perhaps, he can draw him a picture using his favorite color, bring him a craft that he made at home, or even make an effort to meet his eyes and smile at him every time he walks by! Expressions of kindness can take many forms.

Rather than making every hurtful event have an automatic “I’m sorry” response, try encouraging your child to think about the other person’s feelings. First, ask “what happened,” and be sure your child is given an opportunity to explain what occurred. Be sure you understand what went wrong if the situation is not immediately clear. Let the other child explain what happened from her point of view.  Often, there is more to the story. With practice, children can do this without adult assistance. Have the child ask what he can do to make the situation better. Encourage the child to fix the problem and make the other child feel better. Apologies of action are always better than words alone. Once this process becomes the culture of your family it will become automatic and effective. ′

Tomorrow’s Child/ April 2019 / Pg 34

The Power Of Forgiveness

The Power Of Forgiveness

People’s hands show a heart sign. Valentines day relationship concept.

New studies look at forgiveness

To earn his doctorate in counseling and health psychology from Stanford in 1997, Fred Luskin had to write a dissertation. At the time, Luskin was furious with a friend. To complete his graduation requirement and to cope with the pain, Luskin researched and wrote about forgiveness.

“I couldn’t do it. I couldn’t forgive,” he said. “I was badly hurt by a friend of mine and it threw my world upside down.”

Luskin, now a research associate with the Stanford Center for Research in Disease Prevention, focused on Stanford students’ experiences when he initially began studying forgiveness. In 1999, after earning his doctorate, Luskin launched the original Stanford Forgiveness Project, which studied Bay Area residents. According to Luskin, the study involved 260 participants, including 100 men.

Research is conducted in a workshop format and typically lasts from five to six weeks, he said. In his research, he teaches forgiveness as a skill.

“The results were very positive,” Luskin said. “People showed less stress, less anger, more optimism, and more forgiveness.”

“It is not therapy. It is teaching people how to learn this kind of skill,” he said. “We can teach people to forgive and that will improve their well-being.”

The Stanford Forgiveness Project has evolved and now exists as an umbrella organization for numerous Stanford research projects that address forgiveness.

Over the years, researchers with the Stanford Forgiveness Project have worked with families from Ireland who have lost loved ones due to civil strife. The Stanford-Northern Ireland HOPE Project has conducted research on three different occasions with Irish families.

The process of forgiveness can be a liberating experience. One that, if practiced proactively, can lead to a wonderful experience of life. Interestingly, forgiveness can only occur because we have been given the gift of the ability to make choices. We have the choice to forgive or not to forgive and no one can force us to do either. Conversely, if we want to forgive someone, no one can stop us, no matter how poorly they may act. This ability to forgive is a manifestation of the personal control we have over our lives. It is nice to reflect upon and feel the respect that we have been given to be able to make such profound choices.

Compellingly, the option to forgive also implies that we had discretion as to whether or not we took offense in the first place. While forgiving may be a difficult enough choice for many of us, imagine how our lives would be if we rarely or never used our power of choice to take offense. Since we have a choice, wouldn’t it make sense to limit the amount of times we are hurt or offended so that the need to forgive rarely if ever arises? The ability to live life without taking offense, without giving blame, and by offering forgiveness are choices that offer a life of great peace.

The ability to offer proactive forgiveness proceeds along with four steps. At step one, you are filled with self-justified anger. At some point in your life, you have been hurt and you are mad at the person whom you feel wronged you. You blame the person committing the wrong for how you are feeling. It is their action and not your choice of response that you feel is at the cause of your anger. You have forgotten that you have a choice as to how you will react or are so angry that you are convinced that it would not be right to forgive the offense. At this stage, there is usually both active and submerged anger.

The second step towards forgiveness emerges when after feeling angry with someone for a while you realize that the anger does not feel good to you. It may be hurting your emotional balance or your physical health. Or you wish to repair the damage to the relationship. So you take steps to forgive. You may begin to see the problem from the other person’s point of view or you may simply decide to let the problem go. In either case, after an extended period of time, you are no longer angry and you have forgiven the person with whom you were angry. This process can be applied to anger at oneself, another person, or to life in general.

The third stage of forgiveness comes after you have seen the beneficial results of forgiveness and you choose to let go of your anger fairly quickly. In this stage, the choice is to feel the hurt for a short period of time, and then work to either repair the relationship or let go of seeing the situation as a problem. In either case, you decide to forgive because you have had some practice with it and see the benefit in your life. This could emerge in as simple a situation as being cut off by another car on the expressway or in a complex situation like an affair in a marriage. At this stage, you are aware that the length of time you experience the situation as a grievance is primarily up to you.

The fourth stage of forgiveness involves the proactive choice to rarely if ever get angry. This often means to forgive in advance of a specific trigger. This stage often emerges at the same time as some or all of the following thoughts:

I don’t want to waste my precious life in the discomfort caused by anger so I will choose to feel differently. I am able to forgive myself, forgive others, forgive life, and forgive God.

I know how it hurts when people don’t forgive me. I do not want to hurt other people with my anger so I will let it go.

Life is filled with incredible beauty and I am missing some if I am experiencing unresolved anger. I forgive myself for getting sidetracked.

 People do the best they can and if they err I can best help them by offering to understand. The first step in this process is to forgive the specific offense.

 Everyone, including myself, operates primarily out of self-interest. I must expect that some times I, in my self-interest, will be annoyed by someone else’s expression of their self-interest. If I can understand that this is an ordinary part of life, what is there to be upset about? If I understand that self-interest is the way that I behave, how can I but offer forgiveness to everyone, including myself for behaving that way?

These four stages of forgiveness will not be followed in the same way by all people and in all relationships. There are some people for whom we feel such love that we are almost always at stage four: open-hearted and ready to forgive. There are other people for whom we feel so egregiously hurt and our well of goodwill for them is so dry that we can spend years at stage one. What is critical to remember is the power of personal choice and the importance of exercising that choice to forgive so that we can bring peace and healing into our relationships and ourselves. ′

Frederic Luskin, Ph.D. is a keynote speaker at our upcoming Annual Conference. Read more about him on page 23.